A cheat sheet for communicating with women

Disclaimer: this is a long but insightful post so, boys, grab your notebooks and pens.

What is it about females that makes it so difficult for males to relate to? Before we dive into this, let’s first understand that men and women are wired differently and this won’t ever change. Simply put, understanding women is not a mind game, however, it requires much attentiveness and patience.

I’m blogging about this because not only is it a crowd pleaser but it’s also something that most, if not all, men have a problem with.

Communicating with women is not that complex if you remember that, most of the time, whatever they say has a reverse meaning. Let me elaborate, “it’s nothing” is always something and “wow” is never a compliment but rather an exclamation of surprise with the manner in which you’re acting. It takes a little bit more brain power and effort to comprehend but once you’ve got it, you're set for life.

Here’s a crucial point I’d like to raise – it’s physically impossible for women to get ready in less than an hour and regardless of how long we take, we are never fully ready by the time you arrive. With that said, please stop arriving to fetch us with the intention of waiting only five to ten minutes when we are still committing to our outfit while we’re on our way out the door. The added pressure of hurrying us up will, indefinitely, slow us down. If you can understand this, the way we understand that you’ll always leave the toilet seat up, then everyone will be satisfied.

Another issue that always gets both parties flustered is deciding where to eat. It’s not that difficult to just tell her where you’re going, don’t even waste your time asking her because she will not tell you. If you tell her what you’ve planned then she will appreciate you taking charge and tell you straight up if she prefers sushi instead of pizza for date night.

If there’s one thing you take from this then note that women truly hate it when we are not listened to. A valuable tip, from me to you, is how you choose to react to her, pointless, never ending stories. Use your facial expressions, ask her questions and add an “oh my goodness, seriously?” or “don’t even joke!” – these small phrases are gold. Always show you’re interested and be an active listener even if it’s the most forced thing you have to do.

Please understand that when a woman chooses to invest her time in a conversation with you it’s because she wants to become closer and she wants to learn about you so appreciate it and take it as a compliment. I mean, what do women enjoy the most, besides coffee and chocolate? Speaking – notice how I didn’t say gossiping (which we do enjoy too) but speaking, in general, so always ask how her day was. Just as you have dreadful or thrilling days, so do we and telling you about it could very likely be the best part of our day.

Remember that the woman’s mind tends to wander a bit (just like the man’s eye) so we do straggle when trying to reach a point. With saying this, do not finish our sentences because, more often than not, you are incorrect with what you think we want to say. We put a lot of thought into what we are saying so appreciate the conversation and don’t try hurry it along.

Lastly, tell your woman that you love her (not out of habit) and mean it. Don’t over-do it but, at the same time, don’t forget that those three words mean everything for her to hear. With that said, you can’t only say you love her and be done with it, you have to tell her more about how you feel, you have to share your inner-most thoughts with her and let her know what else you are feeling towards her. You know how nosy we can be.

See? Not that difficult.