Cleanse

Often, we hear of people voluntarily deleting their social media accounts or choosing to eliminate social media for a period of time in an attempt to cleanse or detox themselves. I’ve honestly never understood why someone would opt for this, until now. If you don't already know, I am currently phone-less, yes, my phone is completely inoperable! I only have my laptop which can connect me to a few of the essentials, however, I cannot cart it around with ease like a cell phone so, at times, I’m sort of stranded. This may create distress for some and a sense of peace for others but I’m in two minds about it.

I take my phone with me wherever I go, I’m not always using it, however, I do feel the need to have it with me for a sense of 'comfort'. You’ll understand exactly what I mean by this if you’ve ever been left alone in public for a few minutes. Perhaps, the other person or people that you’re with needed to go to the bathroom or had to run to their car to fetch something – regardless, you’re on your own. Have you ever not gone on your phone under these circumstances? It's second nature for us, we immediately pull out our phone to appear occupied and not 'alone' because when we are alone, we feel vulnerable.

If being alone in public doesn’t bother you then what about when all your friends are taking photos or Instagram stories of priceless moments and you can’t? This could be the worst of them all for me because I feel so excluded from the group that I’m with and as if I'm opposing the societal norm of capturing every moment on camera. Since I am without a phone, I’m without a choice to sit alone, having to busy myself by shuffling in my handbag or pretending to tie my shoelace. I also can’t keep up with social media or make posts and story updates. Besides having my laptop, I’m completely disconnected to anyone that isn’t seeing me face-to-face and I think I’m actually appreciating it.

I’m finally offline! I have not made contact with anyone, besides with those that need to know that I’m still alive (like my parents - remember I do live in a different province to them). I also have not been able to observe other people’s lives or have been influenced by any recent online trends. It’s refreshing to not be that person forcing my friends to stop what they’re enjoying for a photo. For instance, we went kayaking earlier this morning with dolphins (thanks to @atlanticoutlook) and you’re just going to have to take my word for it because I didn't post a photo or story about it. Instead, I gained an unforgettable experience and genuinely bonded with the people that I was with.

Before you leave, let me clarify, I’m definitely not telling you to delete your Instagram account or to lock your phone away for 30 days. All that I’m suggesting is that you pause and ask yourself if you’re actually cherishing everyone you’re connecting with as well as appreciating the experiences you’re so fortunate to be having.